Haven’t blogged in a while and trust me when I say it was absolutely for the best. I have so many drafts just sitting right now on my dashboard. I couldn’t form coherent thoughts that wouldn’t be labeled as incriminating so I’ve been chilliln.
Welp, the chill is off.
So I was watching one of my favorite staged reality court shows, Divorce Court, when I stumbled upon this gem. This negrum, who is 39, got on National TV and proudly proclaimed that he has 27 kids and 17 baby mamas. In one year he had 5 chicks pregnant at the same damn time. So he has 5 children who are the exact same age. I was disgusted but sadly not shocked.
Why wasn’t it shocking, you ask? Let’s not forget these upstanding gentlemen here:
Personally I don’t date men with more than 2 children’s mothers. Obviously I’m ok with 1 mother. I can understand that things may have not worked out with that one and you thought you found your match in another, so there was a 2nd mother. I get that. But once you hit 3 and up then clearly you are just horrible at decision-making and have little to no regard for your personal health. It is totally inconceivable to me how a man can approach a woman and say he has 20+ kids and 16 baby mamas and she actually pursues something with him.
Are y’all really that hard up?!
Let’s run down just why dating a chronic peen slinger is a bad idea:
1) A dude with that many kids doesn’t believe in using protection. And clearly he breeds with females who don’t believe in using protection. In fact, the amount of kids is just a mere fraction of the total number of women who he raw’d who DIDN’T have his babies. He’s a category CRIMSON for STD’s. He has no problem having unprotected sex so has no regard for his own health, so he obviously doesn’t’ get regularly health screens.
2) I understand that relationships don’t work out. I get it. That’s why I can understand 2 different mothers. But once you hit 3 and up, then it’s clear that you are just irresponsible and don’t give a fuck who you release your man milk inside. This spills over into all of the other aspects in your life. If you aren’t responsible about creating human life, then clearly I can’t trust that you will be responsible in all of the other aspects of your life.
3) Why in the hell would I want to be with someone who has 12 baby mamas and has never been married? It’s even worse if you have multiple babies by multiple women and you weren’t in committed serious relationships with any of them! This lets me know what your intentions are with me. If you can get 20 women pregnant and just keep moving on, why would I be the exception? Your resume speaks for itself.
4) DRAMA! DRAMA! DRAMA! Oh and did I mention, DRAMA! I don’t like extra people in my relationship. I understand that there is a certain level of interaction and civility that will have to occur when a man has a child with a woman. This becomes more complicated when there are 2 different women. It’s not impossible, but the level of complication does increase. Now once you hit 3, 4, 18 baby mamas, your life with him just turns into one non-stop episode of Love & Hip hop ATL. Unless you are dealing with Tip or Wayne, there is no possible way for that many women to get along maturely, not still have feelings for him, and be emotionally stable and co-parent responsibly. NO…FUCKING….WAY! When he has several BM’s you are in a relationship with him and all of his children’s mothers. Prank calls, social network stalking, unexpected “visits” to your job, property vandalizing, and brainwashed, unruly kids who were taught to not listen to you by their mothers. Yep, that’s your life.
5) I hate deadbeats and I’m currently dealing with this issue. I am repulsed by the notion of men who father children and have little to no involvement in their upbringing. There is no way that a man with 27 kids can be a “good father”. It’s hard enough raising one child, but once you need a church van to transport all of your kids, it’s damn near impossible by anyone’s standards to refer to yourself as a good father. This is enhanced more when they are scattered across the state and country. You aren’t adequately parenting these kids because you can’t split yourself into however many children you have and spend equal time with them all. You can’t be at all of their school events. You can’t tuck each one in and read to them. You can’t kiss all of their boo-boos. You can’t pick them all up when they are sick. You can’t be that strong, male figure and make them all feel loved when you have a child in every got damn state!
6) Obviously when a man has a village of children, he will never have money. Between child support and other expenses involving child care, he will always be struggling. You will always have to support him and his credit will probably be shitty. And to revisit #4, there will be some bitter BM’s who will do everything in their power to get him locked up, increase his child support, or suck him dry just because they are mad that you are in his life. So now you have a dude with a criminal record, limited career options, chronic brokeness and permanent ties to bitter demons who feed off of his misery and yours.
7) You have to be mentally disabled to believe that a man with 30 kids with 17 mothers isn’t STILL smashing at least 9 of them. Especially if the kids are young because that tie is still fresh. Further, he always has an excuse to cheat and lie. He can always just say that he was with of his 30 children. If you need to question why this is a problem, please revisit #1 and #4 on the aforementioned list.
STOP RIGHT HERE! OH NO YOU WON’T! Females, you aren’t about to just glide on off of this post feeling all self-righteous whilst you get ready to bash your “sorry baby daddy”. Let me make it very clear. The females in these cases are EQUALLY as deplorable as the peen slingers.
I’m not a fan of the generalization of ALL single mothers that the childless and married love to make. Everyone’s story is different. Some of us were duped. Some were good guys who just flaked out. Some had no other children so you don’t have any knowledge that he could have “done the same” to you. Some got divorced. Some lost the other parent to death. So yes, there are exceptions.
That said, you can’t go around talking shit about your “deadbeat baby daddy” when you accepted the fact that he told you from the jump that he had SEVERAL children. You made the decision to have unprotected sex with a man who already has multiple baby mamas and wasn’t married to ANY of them. You see that he had babies with all these women and walked away from them, so how can you possibly believe you are the exception?!
We all know how sex works. If you have unprotected sex, you might get pregnant. There is a plethora of FREE resources available to prevent or end pregnancy. When you have a baby with a man who isn’t your husband (hell sometimes even then too) you need to ask yourself if you are able to raise that child on your own. Regardless of what the dad says, there’s always a chance that he will walk away, leaving you and your child on your own.
If he tells you he has an army of kids with several different women but you continue to let him shoot his man milk inside of you, then you are just as much to blame for his carelessness and population increasing efforts as he is. You are not allowed to bash him because you knew better.
You saw with your own eyes that he wasn’t taking care of his 27 kids, yet you laid up with him anyway, became baby mother #28, and have now begun singing the deadbeat song as if you weren’t made aware of his total absenteeism with his other children. It was fine for you to get involved with him because “his kids weren’t your problem” but now that the same has happened to you, you are somehow awestruck.
Stop taking up company with these wayward peen slingers who just add to our steady failing community. It should be a turn off to any decent woman if a man has that many kids, was never married, and to top it off, neglects them.
Men will fuck anything with a hole but as a woman, you are in control of your vagina. It speaks more on the character of the women who continue to have babies with these sperm shooters than it does the men themselves. The fact that you knew about all the kids means that you have little to no self-respect. The fact that you agreed to join his baby mama stable when you took no birth control measures renders you as “just another” in his book. You can’t go around crying after you’ve burned yourself when you were told not to touch the stove and there was a glaring red warning siren that told you not to touch it.
These are just my thoughts and my preferences. So if you have 3 or more baby mamas, please don’t attempt to tell me your story or argue your case…I don’t care….I just don’t care. You take care of all of them? Great. All of the BMs get along and you have no drama. Super. You still are able to live comfortably. Kudos. My opinions and preferences are unwavering so you will just be wasting characters.
I don’t care. Besides, I’m a Martian. Considering the fact that at one point the running count for baby mothers was 1 digit lower than it was when he met every BM before the last, it’s quite clear that many females don’t share my views. So don’t get all butt hurt at me because although it’s repulsive to me, peaches, teetee, and herpesha don’t give a fuck.
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